I catch the train to work every morning and on my way to the station they are developing a new block of flats. This would be all good except with construction comes construction workers.
Before I begin my tirade, you have to understand I am usually a friendly person and greet almost everyone along the road and I also really and truly hate confrontation.
It’s when the construction work began and the construction workers made their way onto the street that the problems began. The lascivious comments, stares and the like really frustrated me so much that I even considered finding a different route to work, but my mental conversation persuaded me to continue using that stretch of road.
They don’t own it. They have no right to talk to me that way. I also convinced myself that the next time they decided to make such lewd comments that I would tell them off. I don’t know what I’d say as I haven’t quite reached that step of bravery, but I have gotten to ignoring them.
Why do I have problems with this? I know a little bit about stereotypes and I’m all for breaking them. It frustrates me that these men (I have not seen any women on site, which is also a shame but I will leave that for another tirade) are reinforcing the stereotypes of constructions workers, when I know that they are not all like that. They are also just continuing this stereotype for movies and other media to continue portraying.
I have problems with being called babe, honey, doll etc. ‘Good morning’ is fine. Leave the endearments for your wives.
On the note of wives, I wonder if some men’s wives and partners know what they say to other women. Would they say such things in front of them? If not, then they clearly know it’s wrong so stop.
I have a problem with people disrespecting females. And I am frustrated with myself for not being able to say anything. I am ignoring it, but ignoring it won’t make the problem go away. By not saying anything I feel like I am condoning it, which I am not.
Has anyone else had this type of problem and how did you deal with it?