By Tshimo Leeuw
So last week this girl(who used to be a very dear friend) stops me and tells me how “scruffy” I look. I was shocked. Naturally I do the girl thing about it and tell all my girlfriends including my mother and their reaction as expected is one similar to mine.
See the reason for my “scruffiness” is my hair…my hair that’s not combed nor has it undergone any form of chemical treatment this hair of mine is in its most natural form. Now am I “scruffy” because my hair is natural?
My definition of “scruffy” is something along the lines of “dirty, unclean or even shabby looking”. Am I “scruffy” because of my very natural hair?
Being the person that I am I had to ask a third party, someone who would be brutally honest, and he says to me “yes Tshimo you are playing for the scruffy team”. Then I asked myself who decides what is scruffy and what is not? Society? The very same society that secretly frowns upon women with fake hair, fake lashes oh and dare I not forget Fake nails?
Yes. It is this very same society that is now labelling me “scruffy” the very society labels others as “fake”….another question arose ‘what does society want?’
I may not have the answers to the questions above but, what I do know is that our society and societal norms are generally cruel to the female species. With that in mind I chose to live with me and my ‘scruffy’ I chose to be me.
After all I am but myself and that I will be to the best of my ability.